Next time you have a conversation with a partner or spouse around money, try to joining it with a posture of “I don’t know, but let’s find out together.”
The temptation can be to join these conversations with a sense of certainty and clarity, but most of the time that leads to entrenched positions that actually we may not even care about so much.
Instead, “I don’t know, but let’s find out together” is an invitation–to yourself and your partner–to see the conversation not as an argument or a rehashing of something already known, but a journey together that’s worth taking.
I don’t know what it would feel like to go back to work part-time, but let’s find out together. I don’t know how giving 10% of our gross income would work, but let’s find out together. I don’t know where we’re spending on things we don’t care about, but let’s find out together. I don’t know what sorts of money habits we’re teaching our children, but let’s find out together.
You don’t need to have an answer already. The answer is a way to hide from the work of the journey.
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